#JustAskLo: Losing My Virginity at 26 + More


juicy topics today, guys! From a woman who is losing her virginity at 26, to finding it hard to find a relationship, to a gal who hates her boyfriend’s friends – we’re covering a lot on #JustAskLo! Send me your advice Qs on Instagram @lobosworth or shoot me a note at advice@thelodown.com.


 Questions below have been edited for length and clarity.

I’m 26 and have suffered from anxiety for most of my life but have been diagnosed with it in the last two years (this is relevant later in my question). I’ve never had sex before as I have never felt comfortable with myself however a very close friend of mine has recently started to ask me out and when he tries to progress past kissing I freak out and I’m afraid that I’ll do something wrong or that he won’t like what I’m doing! Please help! It’s getting in the way of our relationship moving forward.

Also, I feel like my sex drive may be low due to my medication for my anxiety. Has this happened to you before? It’s making it so much more difficult for me because I really like him and I’ve waited for a long time for something to happen between us.

I feel happy with where I’m at in my life – job, friends, city, and all of that. However, I’m frustrated with my love life. I’ve never had a long term serious boyfriend and it sucks. I loved a man when I was 25 but he wasn’t over his ex and he absolutely crushed my heart. I became very depressed after, however it got me into therapy and I’ve made a ton of progress since then. Since then, I’ve dated here and there and within the last 6 months have been very actively dating – TONS of first dates. I liked 2 of the guys in the past 6 months but they haven’t gone anywhere. I want someone to share my life with but it is just not happening for me. 

Do you have any advice on what to do? Dating is also hard in the city I live in (San Francisco) and so many guys are Peter Pan tech bros.

I’m 25 years old and have been living with my boyfriend of 1.5 years for a while now. We met after college and I’m pretty confident he is the one I want to spend my life with! We compliment each other very well. The only downfall to our relationship is his friends. We live in a city very close to where he went to college and now most of his fraternity brothers live here. None of my friends from college or high school live close by so I need to rely on his friends for any form of a social life. BUT THEY ARE AWFUL. They’re rude, obnoxious, and downright immature.

Help me! I don’t know what to do. I love him so much but his friends could be a deal-breaker.

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